I am stuck on if I should give my baby that daddys las name or mine.?

Me and him arent together anymore, and he doesnt seem to want to have anything to do with me. All I've asked of him is to buy me a stroller with the car seat attached for about 2-3 months now he's been telling me oh I'm gonna get it, but I have not seen it yet, the only thing he has bought are a 2 pair of Nike shoes. Okay, so at least he's being thoughtful, but I'd rather him get my baby what he needs!!





--Now he is saying that him and his "other baby moma" is gonna raise MY BABY!! IS HE CRAZY!?!?!


[[[when we got together, him and her were "separating", and I got prego, and all of a sudden he wanna be with her still, yet he still wana call me talkin bout he ""LOVES"" me, and he misses me [[he jus thinks he can still have what he wants and more.. ]]


--I want to be able to recieve child support. And I know even if the baby has my las name that he will recieve it. But I'm stuck on wether or not I should go with daddys las name or mine!!!


WHAT SHOULD I DO???

I am stuck on if I should give my baby that daddys las name or mine.?
DUH your last name. My child would never have the Fathers name unless we were married.
Reply:Thats up to you really! You have to sit down and think long and hard about that one! Personally i would give the baby his last name. Dont deprive your child just because you guys are not getting along. One day the dad might wake up and the baby will ask why he or she doesnt have his last name. That will come back on you! Yes you can get child support anyway so i wouldnt worry about that! GOOD LUCK!
Reply:I'd use my own last name. Sounds like your "baby daddy" is not going to be there for you both, so his family probably won't be either. In the long run your child may feel like he doesn't belong if he only knows family with your last name.
Reply:Do want you feel is best for your baby. Just don't do it out if spike because how he treatd you. I almost did that. Pray about it.
Reply:Your last name. You don't want anything more to do with this idiot.
Reply:you should definately go with your last name.
Reply:you are raising the baby... YOUR last name sweetie :)
Reply:uhm, YOUR last name.
Reply:if your not together use your last name - bugger what he says
Reply:Marry him right now and this will not be a problem, God will forgive your sin of being unpure but until you set things right you will burn in hell for being a unpure woman. Your child should have his father name regardless, your child is the property of your husband in your eyes. Because woman are owned by first by by God and second men, you cannot own someone else.


I pray your do what is right child.
Reply:I WENT THRU A SIMILAR SITUATION AND I DECIDED THAT I WOULDNT GIVE MY SON HIS FATHERS LAST NAME. MY THOUGHT WAS THAT IF I EVER GOT MARRIED THAT I WOULD CHANGE MY SONS NAME THEN TO THE PERSON WHO WOULD REALLY BE HIS DAD AND NOT JUST HIS SPERM DONOE. DONT WORRY AS LONG AS YOUR STABLE THEY WONT TAKE YOUR BABY! AND IF HES THREATENING TO TAKE YOUR BABY WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIS LAST NAME FOR YOUR BABY ANYWAY JUST MY THOUGHTS ON THIS HUN. IF YOU NEED TO TALK GIVE ME A EMAIL AND ILL TALK TO YA
Reply:What you Should have done is way too late to do now and that was make sure you used protection with this "


Dead Beat! Your situation is so sad. I can already imagine how it's going to be. He's going to bounce back and forth with you and his other child's mother and one of you will be having a another baby by next year. Sounds like you are more of the sidekick chick so when he gets mad with Baby Mama #1 he'll be sniffing around at your skirt. Please have some dignity and self respect for YOURSELF and not allow him to play YOU. Do it for your child at least. I wouldn't dare honor him with giving the baby his last name.
Reply:No question about it.Give your baby your name.It will be yours so you should give it your name.Then when in school,you two will have the same name.No explanations will be needed.No questions asked.





He will have to pay child support no matter what the babies last name is.The baby will receive child support until 18 or until done with college.Drop the dead-beat like a hot potato.Concentrate just on you and your baby.
Reply:well, i have my opinion and it isnt agreeing with what everyone else here has said...the only thing i will say is you should have gotten to know this guy better before you got pregnant by him...knowing he was with someone when you got with him should have been a red flag to stay away from him to begin with...it isnt gonna matter whos last name the baby has, youre gonna have to deal with him and im sorry to say the only one i feel bad for in this mess is the baby...like it or not this guy is your babys father...





and to make things clear, the father does NOT have to be present in order for his name to go on the birth certificate...(i know cause i went throu it...)
Reply:Okay, last name aside you are entitled to child support. You are not married, and his name will not even go on the birth certificate without him being present, with ID, and say aloud that he is the father of the child. He doesn't sound too thrilled with the idea that you are having a baby, so why honor him with naming the baby for him? Bottom line is that IT IS YOUR BABY rather or not he decides to be a father. Unfortunately in situations like your, a lot of guys opt out. Keep your head up, give the baby your last name (or if you are feeling generous you can hyphenate it) and take care of you. Don't worry about "him and her" just worry about "you and baby" and you'll be better off in the long run.





Good Luck!




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