Whinny Baby?

My 14 month old son is very whinny and clingy. It has been this way for some-time now, but it is getting to the point that if I am not holding him or right by him he is crying. If he sees me getting my shoes on to go somewhere he screams. My husband is very good at helping with my kids but my baby won't let him do much with him. I have taken him to the doctor to make sure he does not have an ear infection or anything, but it was a new doctor so I did not ask her opinion about his whinny.. I know I should have. I do not think it is him teething either because I have given him some tylnol (sp) to see and it didn't change anything. Is it normal for a baby this age to have such bad separation anxiety and what can I do to relieve it.?

Whinny Baby?
Well all my babys went through that at differnt times and some times they were clingy to ther dad and i couldnt be of any help! Do u work Mabe hes just missing you? my 2 year old starts screamming when she sees her dad putting his shoes on and she wants to start grabing hers and her jacket so she could go! I would talk to the doctor next time you go And at some point when your ready to hear some screaming try to put him down a lot more and make sure he has things he might like to do waiting and let him cry and just say sorry i love you but mommy cant hold you rite now and eventually he ll slow down on the whining and crying!


Good Luck From a mother of 6!
Reply:My 8 mos. old acts just like this when he doesn't feel good.
Reply:I feel your pain. We went through this with our girl and have friends that go through it. Think about it this way, your baby is learning either one of two things. That mommy always has to be near, or else he cries to get his way. Or he can learn that it's okay to be apart from each other.





The only thing is, if he's going to learn it the second lesson, you're going to have to let him cry it out. And the longer you wait the worse it will get. But once your baby gets tired of crying, they'll realize that they're okay and can have more fun...





The alternative isn't good... even if it means a lot of crying for the next week. Trust me, within a week, you'll be so glad you did. Babies learn fast, it's sometimes parent's (I'm totally guilty) who can't wait out the crying...








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If it's during the day then it'll probably be even harder to let a child cry it out, since they're not as sleepy, but we go through this too. We just put them around as much fun stuff as we can, talk to her very sweetly as if she were doing nothing wrong and wait it out. Eventually, she'll calm down. Our daughter anyway. I read once that children can pick up on the emotional levels of mothers and fathers (esp. mothers) so that if a mother was tense, the baby would be tense and so on. I'd be calm and wait it out.





Our doctor said that even at night a child could cry for close to two hours without doing any real damage... we never had to let it get that far but we always kind of knew that, "okay, 20 minutes of her crying is better than having to hold her all the time." If it keeps happening, over and over again, and you let them cry for 30 mins or so each time... I'd get a second opinion from a doctor...
Reply:my daughter is just like that ever sence she was little and she still is at the age of 2 1/2 yrs old! she is up my but 24/7 lol i have no clueeeee why
Reply:It's one among many phases that he'll go through. Try and arrange a few playdates with other toddlers and gradually let him get his independence. Join a mommy and me group or something like that. Don't worry it won't last forever..and I know this sounds weird but enjoy it! When they get older they go from clinging to you to not wanting anything to do with you, lol.



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