I baby sit a 8 yr old..and im having problems..someone please help me!!?

i baby sit an 8 yr old once a week, and shes very spoilt! she says very nasty things to me "i hate your hair, i hate your clothes, i hate your shoes..i hate everything about you!!" n i just reply saying "thanks".





I dont know what kind of activity to do with her to keep her quiet. its hard for me to get paint out because her dad comes home for lunch and complains to me about the house being a mess, so i dont bother doing painting because of being told off. we go to the park and she gets bored!!





Can any one PLEASE help me with what i could do!! please help!





bee xxx

I baby sit a 8 yr old..and im having problems..someone please help me!!?
poor you she sounds a delight!. attempt reverse psychology really works if your strong enough to keep with it!.i have worked for years with an autistic child so i know this works!!. when she says she hates you ,ignore that and reply,"im really excited to show you this,come see!!"keep with it.say to her,"ITmake me sad when you say mean words when i KNOW you are such a kind girl" Then ignore bad verbal .Be sneaky,find out what she loves-get her fave book from the library,my 8yrs old daughter loves...hair makeup,high school musical,cooking... gets all these types of books from lib. take a tape recorder and lyrics fro h.sch.musical off net and both try to learn then record you both singing song.find out from parents her fave thing to do--and arm yourself for next time. good luck x
Reply:I know this may not be what you want to hear but it sounds like the parents are no better than the kid. I would tell them that unless they have a talk with the child and leave constructive things that you can do with her , that they will have to find a new sitter.
Reply:think you need to tel her that saying nasty things is not kind and tel her that you will tel her mum/dad if she doesn't stop


as for doing things with her tel her that if she is nice you will take her to the zoo, swimming or to see a film





good luck
Reply:new job girlfriend.
Reply:I agree with Doreen. If the parents are telling you off, then no WONDER the child acts like a spoiled brat. Surely you could find a family that needs someone to baby sit. Why are you baby sitting an 8 yr old? Why is she not in school? Just wondering.





I would either have a talk with the parents and explain to them that their child is very rude, and if things don't change you'll have to quit your job. If you do not think they'll respond favorably, then just quit! And next time, make sure you spend some time getting to know the child you'll have to watch before you agree to watch him/her. I feel for you. Good luck!!
Reply:strangle her
Reply:It sounds like the parents are the root of the problem. If the dad tells you off for the house being messy...you are the babysitter not the maid. Putting the blame on you--saying you are not firm enough-- is their way of not having to deal with the problem. I would definitely talk with the parents and let them know that if this continues you will not be able to watch their daughter, you should not be putting up with insults of an 8 year old just to make $20--which by the way is decent money for babysitting 7 hours (I am a certified day care provider) but you shouldn't be miserable doing it. I have a 9 year old of my own and I watch an 8 year old--"HATE" is a word they are not aloud to use in my house, there are other ways to express your dislikes.


Good Luck, I hope everything works out.
Reply:shout at her in her face that will work
Reply:I don't know how important this job is to you but I would say just quit.I mean not only is the 8 year old being disrespectful, but her Dad is too.If quitting isn't an option, I would at least tell them how you feel.
Reply:You cannot control how this family talks to and treats each other. This child lives in an environment where being disrespectful is the norm. So when you are offended by her behavior she doesn't understand what your problem is, this is the way her family operates all the time.





If you have to keep the job, then your only option is to say to her: "I would like to be friends with you, but I don't like the way you treat me. Is there some way we can learn to get along better so our time together is more fun?" Let her take the lead in how you spend some of your time together. Does she like to play cards, or dance, or read, or draw? If painting is the thing she wants to do, then simply give her one more chance, but tell her first, "your dad doesn't like it to get messy, so we have to be careful". If she still makes a mess, just say "I guess this wasn't a good idea, we won't do this for a while". And then don't. Give it at least two weeks before you offer to give her another chance.





Don't think of this punishing her, think of this as a chance for you to be a good example to her about how people should treat each other. You may be the only person who treats her with respect. (And it is respectful to expect the best out of someone).


Good luck.



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