what should i do exactly.which things are necessary to buy first for baby.clothes,shoes,onesis,diapers,crib what???and how could i mentally prepare for pain in labor.and how to train my baby and how can i can think of his education,future etc.we are living in japan .the life is very tough here.what should i do???
Day and night i have lecture from my hubby to be prepared for baby/////?
Buy a few things at a time, put the bigger things on lay-by. You will need or want:
FIRST WARDROBE
3 to 7 singlets. Open front, side snap styles are easier to use with newborns, but pullovers are smoother and more comfortable; snap bottom body singleys don%26#039;t ride up, keeping tummies covered in cold weather.
2 to 3 sleepers for late autumn or winter babies. Do not use the bag types once your baby can pull up.
3 to 4 pilchers if you%26#039;re planning to use cloth nappies. If you%26#039;re using disposables, just one dress up pair for special occasions.
2 to 3 pairs of booties or socks. Select those that wont kick off easily.
3 to 6 jumpsuits with feet for an autumn or winter baby, but just 2 or 3 for a late spring or summer arrival.
3 to 6 jumpsuits without feet (one piece, shortsleeved, snap at the crotch outfits) for a late spring or summer baby
2 washable bibs or a pack of disposables. Even before solids are introduced you%26#039;ll need these to protect clothes from possetting.
1 to 3 jumpers. 1 lightweight jumper will do in summer however heavier ones will be needed in cold weather.
1 to 3 hats. Lightweight with brim and neck flap (for sun protection) for a summer baby; heavier weight and shaped to cover the ears snugly but not too tightly for a winter baby.
1 bunting or snowsuit bag with attached mitts for a winter in southern states.
LINEN WARDROBE
3 to 6 receiving blankets (bunny rugs) depending on season
3 to 4 fitted sheets each, for cot, cradle, bassinet, and/or pram.
2 quilted mattress pads, if desired
2 to 6 waterproof covers for protecting cot, pram, laps and furniture
2 washable cot or bassinet blankets or comforters. Lightweight for summer; heavier for winter. Avoid long fringes and loose threads.
1 to 2 blankets for pram or stroller. Just 1 lightweight one for a summer baby.
2 to 3 terry cloth towels, with hoods.
2 to 3 soft washclothes
A least 10 square cloth nappies, for protecting your shoulders when burping baby, to protect sheets when baby possets up, for emergency bibs and much more.
Nappy liners for cloth nappies if you like, for heavy wetters or extra night time protection.
Nappies. Purchase 25 to 60 cloth ones if you are washing your own, or several packets of disposables, if you are using them exclusively (a couple of packets if you will use them only for outings and emergencies). If you are planning to use a nappy service, sign up in the eighth month and they will be ready to deliver as soon as you.
TOILETRIES
Items needed for nappy changes should be kept on a shelf high above the changing table to prevent baby%26#039;s grabbing for them, but low enough for you to reach easily.
Body soap or bath liquid, to be used sparingly.
No tears baby shampoo. For young infants, no tears baby bath can be used for shampoo.
Baby oil, if desired. This is not a neccessary item, unless the clinic sister suggests it for cradle cap, and olive oil will often serve as well.
Oitment for nappy rash. Ask the doctor or clinic sister for a recommendation.
Wet towlettes (Wipes) for nappy changes, hand washing and many other uses. But use cotton balls and plain water for cleaning baby%26#039;s bottom during the first few weeks and whenever nappy rash is a problem.
Sterile cotton balls for cleaning baby%26#039;s eyes and for nappy changes in the first few weeks and when baby has a rash.
8 nappy pins if you%26#039;re using cloth nappies. Metal heads are better than plastic, which can crack.
Baby brush and comb. Use only a wide toothed comb on wet hair.
FIRST AID KIT
Have these supplies on hand rather than buy them as needed. Ask the doctor for recommendations. Store them out of reach of infants and children.
Liquid aspirin substitute such as Dymadon, Tempra, Panadol (all are brands of paracetamol)
Syrup of ipecac in case of accidental poisining
Liquid decongestant, infant formula, to be used only if prescribed by the doctor (it is not usually recommended for babies)
Antiseptic lotion or witch hazel, for cleaning cuts
Calamine lotion, for mosquito bites and itchy rashes. Do not use on skin that is broken or weeping.
Rehydration fluid if the baby%26#039;s doctor recommends it for treatment of diarrhoea; it%26#039;s not usually needed for breastfed infants
Sunscreen cream of lotion. Use a sunscreen manufactured especially for tiny babies and always follow directions. Try to keep baby out of the sun, and weaing hats and T-shirts.
Calibrated spoon, dropper and/or oral syringe for administering medications.
Sterile band aids and gauze paids in a variety of sizes and shapes
Adhesive tape for securing gauze pads
Rolled crepe bandages for sprains
Roll of cotton wall for use with soap and water for cleaning cuts and grazes
Tweevers for pulling out tiny splinters
Cold mist vaporizer/humidifier. The old fashioned, hot steam humidifier is not recommended because it can lead to burns.
Clinical thermometer. This is more accurate than a fever scan forehead thermometer but the forehead thermometer is certainly easier to use on a baby. The new digital thermometers are also quicker and easier.
Small penlight to check throat for inflammation or pupils for signs of concussion.
Tongue depressors for examining the throat
Heating pad and/or hot water bottle for soothing a colicky tumy or relieving sore muscles.
FEEDING SUPPLIES
If you are bottle feeding
4 bottles, 125ml size and 10 to 12 bottles 250ml size with teats. Glass bottles are easiest to clean but are breackable and are not recommended for use with breastmilk. Plastic bottles come in two types; traditional style reusable and the newer reusable holders with disposable liners with collapse as baby feeds, minimizing air swallowing.
Teats come in several shapes (including the more natural orthodontic) and with different hole sizes (smalled for formula and younger babies, larger for juice and older babies). Silicone teasts are odour and taste free, don%26#039;t get gummy, are dishwasher safe and see though (so you can see if they are clean). You may want to try several types to see which works best for your baby.
Utensils for forumula preperation. Exacty which items you%26#039;ll need will depend on the type of formula you plan to use, but the shopping list will usually include bottle and teat brushes, large Pyrec measuring jug. Pyres measuring cup, can opener, long handler mixing spoon and tongs. All should be boilable.
A sterilizer if you will be bottle feeding or supplementing early on.
A dummy if you decide to use one. Look for sturdy one piece construction, a shield with ventilation holes (required by the Standards Association of Australia) and orthodontic shape. Like tats they are come in easy to clean silicone. Warning, never attach a cord or ribbon to a dummy.
FURNISHINGS
On all itemsL Look for lead free paint, if painted sturdy non tip constructions, smooth edges and rounded corners, safety restraing staps at crotch and waist, where appropriate. Avoid rough edges, sharp points or small parts that might break loose; exposed hinges or springs, attaches strings, cords or ribbons. Be sure to follow the manufacturers directions for use and maintenance of all items and to regularly check baby%26#039;s cot, pram and other equipment for lose screws, frayed straps, supports that have snapped and other signs of wear.
Cot
Cot, mattress
Bumpers
Bassinet or cradle
Changing space
Nappy bucket
Chest of drawers
Baby bath
Bath seat
Infant seat
Toy check
Stroller
Infant car restraint
Baby sling
Nappy bag
Rocking chair
Intercom baby monitor
Baby swing
Portable cot
Feeding chair
Portable feeding seat
Playpen
Safety gate
Walker
THE PAIN OF LABOUR
The best way to mentally prepare for the pain of labour is to read up on what actually happens, so that you are more aware of what your body is doing, and why. You could also research different pain relief methods for labour. I%26#039;ve included some information on what you%26#039;ll feel during labour in this post.
Yes, labour is quite painful. Labour has three phases to it.
The first phase:
This is usually the longest, and fortunately, the least intense phase of labour. The dilation (opening) of the cervix to 3 centremetres and the accompanying effacement (thinning out) that can characterise this phase can be reacher over a period of days or weeks without noticeable or bothersome contractions, or over a period of two to six hours (and less commonly, up to 24 hours) of unmistakeable labour. Contractions in this phase usually last thirty to forty five seconds, through they can be shorter. They are mild to moderately strong, may be regular or irrregular (ranging between five and twenty minutes apart) and become progressively closer together, but not necessarily in a consistent pattern. Some women don%26#039;t notice them at all. You will probably be told to go to the hospital at the end of this phase of the beginning of the next. The most common signs and symptoms in Phase One include: backache (either constant or with each contraction), menstrual like cramps, indigestions, diarrhoea, a sensation of warmth in the abdomden and bloody show ( a blood tinger mucousy discharge). You may experience all of these, or just one or two. The amniotic membranes may rupture before the onset of contractions, but it is more likely that they will rupture (or be artifically ruptured) sometime during labour itself.
Emotionally, you may feel excitement, relief, anticipation and uncertanty, anxiety, fear, some women are relaxed and chatty, others are tense and apprehensive.
The second phase: Active labour
The second, or active phase of labour is usually shorer than the first lasting an average of two to three and a half hours (with again, a wide range considered normal). The contractions are more conentrated now, accomplishing more in less time. As they become stronger, longer (forty to sixty seconss, with a distinct peak of about half that time), and more frequent (generally three to four minutes apart), though the pattern may not be regular, the cervix dilates to 7 centimetres. There is less time to rest between contractions. You will probably be in hospital or birthing centre early in this phase - unless, as occasionally happens, dilation of the cervix occurs over a period of a week or two, in which case labour may not be apparent to you until the next phase (transisition). The most common signs and symptoms in this phase include increasing discomfort with contractions (you may be unable to talk through them now), increasing backache, leg discomfort, fatigue, and increasing bloody show. You may experience all of these, or just one or two. Your membranes may rupture, or be ruptured during this phase, if they haven%26#039;t earlier. Emotionally, you may feel restless, and find it more difficult to relax, or your concentration may become more intense, and you may become completely absorbed in the work at hand. Your confidence may begin to waver, and you may feel as if labour is never going to end, or you may feel excited and encouraged that things are really starting to happen. Whatever your feelings, accept them and get ready to start getting %26#039;active%26#039;.
The third phase: Transistion is the most demanding phase of labour. Suddenly the intensity of the contractions picks up. They become very strong, two to three minutes apart, and sixty to ninety seconds long - with very intense peaks that last for most of the contraction. Some women, particularly women who havegiven birth before, experience multiple peaks. You may feel as though the contractions never completely disappear and that you can%26#039;t relax between them. The final 3 centimetres of dilartion, to a full 10 centimetres, will probably take place in a very short time, on average fifteen minutes to an hour. In transistion, you are likely to feel strong pessure in the lower back and/or perineum. Rectal pressure, with or without an urge to push or move your bowels, may cause you to grunt involuntarily. You may feel either very warm and sweaty or chilled and shaky, or alternate between the two. Your bloody vaginal show will increase as more capillaries in the cervix rupture; your legs may be crampy and cold and may tremble uncontrollably. You may experience nausea and/or vomiting, and drowsiness may overcome you between contractions as oxygen is diverted froom your brain to the site ofthe delivery. Some owmen also feel tightening in their throat or chest. Not surprising, at this point you may feel exhausted.
Emotionally, you may feel vulnerable and overwhelmed, as though you%26#039;re reachint the end of your rope. In addition to frustration over not being able to push yet, you may feel discouraged, irritable, disorientated, restless and have difficulty concentrating and relaxing (it may seem impossible to do either). You may also find excitement reaching a fever pitch in the midst of all the stress.
NEWBORN
Buy a good book on how to look after babies, it%26#039;ll really help! There is a great book by the same authors that I listed below called %26#039;What to expect the first year%26#039;, it answers hundreds of questions about your baby, and does it in a month by month format as well as having a glossary to look up specific information. You can buy this book on Ebay for a fairly cheap price.
You may also benefit from going on a pregnancy and parenting forum, where many women have the same concerns that you have. I%26#039;ve included the link to the one I go to below.
Good luck to you, and remember to enjoy your baby!
Reply:Buy a few things at a time and you will eventauuly have astockplie of stuff.
The first itmes I bought were little clothes because it got my in the mood and helped push the scaries away.
Reply:Tell your husband he is going to give himself a heart attack worrying all the time. What happens to the child is mostly outside of his control, but usually kids turn out ok.
Reply:take it easy...even if you do absolutly nothing babes will be ok...what u need to do is chill out...everything you need will come to you.
buy basics...to hell with all the daft advertising of all the expensive crap they tell us we need.
something to keep him warm, food if your not b.feeding, diapers...everything else you can get as you need it or. dont make this a difficult time...pregnancy is about Mom feeling fabulous...this is your time...tell hubby to chill out!!
its lovely that he cares so much ...but if he is stressing you out then he isnt doing you or babes any favors.
the only thing you need right now is his love and attentiveness...good food and a little exercise...take it easy life is not meant to be stressful...enjoy a little shopping...and enjoy a this short amount of time you have feeling fabulously pregnant
Reply:just tell your husband that you are prepared and if he can think of anything else that you would need he can just pack it his self
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