I'm 17 and Want a Baby?!?

I%26#039;m only 17 and think alot about having a baby. I am constantly looking at little boy clothes, baby furniture, shoes, etc. that has to do with babies. I also look at baby names. What can I do?


PS: Please don%26#039;t lecture me about money and finishing school. I keep telling myself im going to have a baby by the time im 22 but I want one now!

I%26#039;m 17 and Want a Baby?!?
if ya want one, get one. coz it looks like to me you have thought this over alot, and had lots of lectures.





oh ye... get a backup plan...(a man).
Reply:You should really wait until your older. Babys are difficult to take care of! I know; babs are so adorable and those little toys and clothes! But truts me, it could be a big mistake if you have one now..
Reply:You don%26#039;t want to be lectured about money and school so I won%26#039;t talk about that. How about this you-- are 17 years old unable to take care of yourself what can you offer a child right now but hardship and struggle. Stop being selfish. A child deserves the best possible chance in life and you are in no position to give it to them.
Reply:You warned the people who would answer your question not to lecture about money and school, so you%26#039;re obviously not interested in listening to reason and logic, which is sad because as a mother you would need tons of both. If being broke and not having a college degree isn%26#039;t important to you, think of your social life. It would disappear. No more Friday and Saturday nights out, and good luck finding a 17-year old guy who wants to date a mother. And by the way, who%26#039;s this baby%26#039;s father going to be? Is your baby even going to know their dad?





There%26#039;s nothing wrong with looking forward to being a mother, but you should also be enjoying your youth. Think of all the things you%26#039;ll miss out on. Think about the costs of daycare - it costs around $300 a week to keep an infant in daycare in most places, and without a college degree, how are you going to get a job that will pay for daycare, and then other little things like food for you AND the baby, a roof over your heads, clothing, and little things like laundry detergent? What if the baby gets sick, or ends up being born with special needs? Are you emotionally ready to handle that? Do you have a job that will give you full medical coverage for yourself and your baby, or are you going to pay for co-pays, office visits, AND prescriptions every time you and your baby get sick? The last cold I got, the antibiotics cost me $75, and I have probably the best medical coverage out there.





Just think. You have plenty of time to be a mom. Be selfish, and enjoy YOUR life before you become someone else%26#039;s.





Best of luck to you
Reply:have a baby
Reply:why do you want to ruin your life? u are young go have fun find a man to love you dont need a baby to show love---babys are not fun at all trust me i know
Reply:GO AHEAD IT WILL BE FUN FOR YOU WHILE ALL YOUR MATES ARE OUT WITH BOYS EXPERIENCING LIFE YOU%26#039;LL BE STUCK AT HOME WITH A SCREAMING TEETHING BABY THAT WANTS FEED 24/7 ITS AR*SE CHANGED ON TAP AND ONLY SMILES WHEN IT HAS WIND !!!! YOU%26#039;LL BE DRESSED LIKE A TRAMP AS YOU%26#039;LL BE COVERED IN SICK AND YOU WONT BE ABLE TO AFFORD GOOD CLOTHES AS YOUR BABY WILL NEED THINGS LIKE NAPPIES AND MILK !! PLUS WHEN THE NOVELTY%26#039;S WORE OFF YOU WONT GET A BABYSITTER FOR SH*IT AND YOU%26#039;LL BE STUCK WITH THIS PARASITE FOR 20 YEARS I%26#039;M 26 AND IVE BEEN WITH MY FELLA FOR 15 YEARS AND I DONT WANT NO BABIES YET SO GO AHEAD SWEETIE HAVE ONE YOUR A MUPPET IF YOU DO !!!
Reply:I best advice i can give is to get married and then have a baby but you should really talk to your parents about this. or someone you really trust or lookup to.
Reply:17 and you want a baby? and you don%26#039;t want to be lectured about the obvious. Well, i%26#039;ll say one thing, you obviously don%26#039;t know what you are asking for here. Babies are stress when you are totally prepared and you are mature enough to handle them, far less for someone who is starting with obvious disadvantages. You do know that they grow up and don%26#039;t stay cute and small right. There is lots of time. Get a pet in the meantime. You will be glad you waited.
Reply:your a nutcase, and i feel sorry for your next boyfriend
Reply:You%26#039;re 17 and need some therapy to figure out the reason you feel you want a baby at 17! Money/school/etc. aside!





Don%26#039;t you want to wait to have a child with the right man? In a way this is a bit selfish because at 17 it is highly unlikely you will know if a man is the right one for you are then bringing this child into the world who is most likely will be raised by a single mom. Hey I commend ANY single mom, BUT from what I have heard it is not easy!





Guys don%26#039;t usually mature until maybe 26 and on, let alone 17! Besides honestly what guy do you know is going to just %26quot;want a baby?%26quot; Don%26#039;t pull the tricking him in any way, that is wrong on SO many levels!
Reply:volunteer at a adoption agency or hospital or daycare.... a good way to ease that anxiety
Reply:You should get a job at a day care of some sort or volunteer your time at one.


Are you wanting a baby to call your own? For someone to love you unconditionally?


Babies are truly a wonderful gift of love. You wanting one and admitting it takes alot of courage. While your working on the means to support it you can be working with them.


Have you thought about becoming a nurse?


Try to get into the field of babies somewhere you%26#039;ll be comfortable in.
Reply:Okay, you want a baby and who is going to look after you and the baby since you are a baby yourself? Use your head and think.
Reply:but if you want one, then go for it. Just don%26#039;t forget that it comes with a lot of responsibility.
Reply:same to me but i am not a girl. you just like kids you dont really want one if you are like thinking about sex that means you do want a baby to seriously atleast wait a 2 or 3 years
Reply:You may want a baby now, but are you ready to take care of that baby? Babies are expensive and take a huge amount of time out of your life. So, if you are ready to separate yourself from having fun and having a social life, then have one. Your life will completely change when you have a baby because you would have to focus on your baby all the time.
Reply:DO IT
Reply:A baby is for life not a toy.
Reply:WELL THEN D0 WHATEVER MAKES Y0U HAPPY.


iT%26#039;S Y0UR LiFE.


PE0PLE SH0ULDN%26#039;T TELL Y0U H0W T0 LiVE iT.


BUT iF i WERE Y0U.


THEN i W0ULD MAKE SURE i AM PREPARED BEF0RE HAViNG A CHiLD.
Reply:Honey, I SSOOO know the feeling. We women get a %26quot;baby itch%26quot; after awhile! Some of it%26#039;s hormonal, some of it%26#039;s emotional, some of it%26#039;s our real biological clock ticking. But keep in mind, your head should make the decisions, not your hormones, emotions, or %26quot;ticking%26quot;...wanting a baby is not wrong or stupid or something to be lectured about. HAVING a baby, on the other hand, would not be very wise. I%26#039;m not gonna lecture you, cause just glancing through the other answers, I see you%26#039;ve gotten plenty of that. But I%26#039;ll say this - the baby itch comes and goes, sometimes it lasts a week, sometimes months, sometimes a year or so, but you gotta use your head. People may sound mean, but they do offer a grain of logic. You love your baby already, before you even have him/her...you%26#039;ll love him/her even more when you have one...but love them as much as you can right now, by determining not to bring them into the world until you can offer them an amazing family, a warm loving home, and a mother who is ready and able to give them the kind of care they deserve...because they do deserve it:)
Reply:whoa u got born waited 17 yrs and r ready to get busy!!
Reply:Trust me, your not ready for a baby???? You are only liking what you see, it%26#039;s not the fact that you want a baby, it%26#039;s the fact that baby clothes are so adorable and it makes you wonder. Your not silly out of your mind???


Dear you don%26#039;t need a baby. It%26#039;s okay to want baby things but it%26#039;s not okay to have a baby. You are still a child for god sakes!! What your going through is wanting to have all those adorable clothes and things. It%26#039;s something you want as far as style.





Solution:





# 1 Go get yourself a stuff doll so you can dress it the way you want with baby clothes. ANd when you grow up, you can get rid of it but you can%26#039;t with a real baby. Treat your baby the way you would as a mother and give it all your attention and care.





#2 Talk to someone who is your own age or younger and hear about their real experience and what they are going through by getting pregnant and having a child at such a young age. And that clothes like such are NOT affordable on one income!!!





#3 Get a bad of flour and wrap it around your waist and sleep that way for a couple of nights. And get an alarm that wakes you every hour for the first couple of days. Then stay in when friends want you out because you have a flour bag to carry and your too tired. Your pregnant with a child on the way and your picturing those clothes and furnitures.





#4 Get pregnant and find out for yourself!!! If your naive about life and the consequences of having a baby, then just do it!!!





I have a 17 year old and she went through the same thing but she got over it after i tried #3 on her. We made an agreement when we began and we promised to stick by our guns. So, one night her boyfriend and friends came by to take her out and i said no! I told her boyfirend to stay too becuz he is the dad and he said, %26quot;Hell no...!%26quot; It was her choice and she should do this on her own. He left her behind and went out with HER girl friends. I told her that%26#039;s how it%26#039;s going to be and she cried becasue i told her about the agreement and she had to stay in cuz she was pregnant and i didnt want her to hurt my grand baby at a party or dance. IT WORKED!! The feeling was gone and now she is enjoying her youth in high school and watches other girls go through the rough times. She left her boyfriend who just did not give a hoot!!! So the choice is yours to begin with...





So good luck on whatever you decide to do.... Your in your own driver%26#039;s seat and in control of your life.
Reply:There is nothing that can be done or cure or even an antidote for foolishness. I just hope I don%26#039;t have to pay for it too.





poor kid.... :-( whomever he will be.





I hope God enlighten you....





God bless you.
Reply:I%26#039;m not going to lecture you about money or finishing school.


I%26#039;m just going to tell you the plain truth...you%26#039;re being short-sighted and selfish to think you want a baby now.


You want the *ideal* of having a baby, but what about when it has diarrhea or a spikes a temp of 104F for three days and nothing can make it go down and it screams for hours on end?


You need to find someone to babysit for, for about 4 days...
Reply:Are you going to college? Who%26#039;s gonna take care and support the baby? Do you have a job that will pay to support the baby and you? Asking your mom or grand mom to take care of it is not an adult thing to do. What are you trying to achieve? There is NO way you can go to school and raise a baby @ the same time. Think DEEPER about your and the baby%26#039;s future! You still have plenty of time to have a kid.
Reply:A BABY IS NOT A TOY MORON U R STUPID 4REAL
Reply:Well, find I guy that wants a baby too. That%26#039;d be easiest. Just make sure the guy will stick around.
Reply:This is what you do. Go to a daycare and ask them can you sit in for two hours. Bet you%26#039;ll wait then. There%26#039;s always time for kids but when you have them to early you have to wait 18 years for your life to be yours again. If you choose to do that, it%26#039;s on you but just don%26#039;t you%26#039;ll regret it love.
Reply:Flame bait post, but I%26#039;ll take the two points.



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