Unwanted gift for baby. How do I not offend?

My mum-in-law has bought my 6 month old baby shoes with a thick sole and high ankle. I%26#039;m against babies wearing such shoes esp this shoe as its so heavy for his little feet. she%26#039;s going to expect to see him wearing them soon and if i upset her then my husband will be upset with me. How do I get around it?

Unwanted gift for baby. How do I not offend?
Babies%26#039; feet grow very quickly, so they won%26#039;t fit for long. Just have the baby wear the shoes once while visiting your MIL, take photos of her holding the baby with his shoes on. And then be done with it, tell her they don%26#039;t fit anymore the next time she is looking for him to wear the shoes :)
Reply:That%26#039;s great advice for the time being, but it%26#039;s not going to stop your MIL from buying shoes you don%26#039;t approve of in the future. By the time he%26#039;s walking, you%26#039;re really not going to want heavy shoes on him... be prepared to stand up for yourself %26amp; of course, him. Report It

Reply:You don%26#039;t get around it.


Honesty pays off big time. Put the shoes on your son so your MIL gets to see them being worn.


Tell your MIL that the shoes are adorable and thank her for the gift. Then explain that you%26#039;ve looked into baby shoes and going forward, your son is only going to wear light weight shoes because it%26#039;s best for natural development.


You really need to reevaluate your priorities. It%26#039;s great that you care enough to know which shoes are best for baby, but to not allow him to wear a gift is ridiculous. Really look into why you%26#039;re against something and see if there%26#039;s room for flexibility before trying to %26#039;get around%26#039; an issue.


Your son is not even walking yet!!
Reply:He%26#039;s not walking so it%26#039;s not a big deal. I made it clear to everyone that my son would not wear shoes like that until he was comfortable walking. At 10 mos. old he%26#039;s somewhat comfortable walking and my in-laws called to ask my permission to take him to buy his first pair of walking shoes. He hated them at first and fell down often, but now he%26#039;s getting used to it.





In retrospect I should have had him wear shoes when he was smaller and not walking just to get used to the feel of shoes on his feet.
Reply:tell you mum - law that you took the baby to the Doctor for a check up and he didnot recommend them because the are to heavy and they dont give the correct support for he baby%26#039;s ankles andgrowing feet,( baby should not wear shoes ) only booties or socks, so it doesnot interfere with growth and support, ask a doctor they will back this up, take care
Reply:Are you for real. Put them on him next time she visits. Even if you don%26#039;t like them. He is 6 months old and is hardly going to suffer back pain etc from running around in them. My mum often bought my baby daughter things I wouldn%26#039;t buy but she was thrilled to see her wearing them even if it was once then I would say she grew out of them. She is dead now and I am glad I let her see her gifts of love being worn.
Reply:Why anyone would get a 6 month old shoes like that is beyond me. This is sticky b/c MILs tend to be sensitive about gifts. Anyway, you have to muster up courage and tell her you don%26#039;t want baby to wear shoes but they are so cute. Ya know, the passive aggressive way. If your hubby gets upset with you, then he has a problem. I would get mad at him for getting mad. This always confuses men and works.
Reply:Just put them on her once when you go to see your mum-in-law and when you get in to her house just take them off she don%26#039;t have to wear shoes in the house and when you go put them on her again but take them off when you get round the corner and then sell them on Ebay or just bin them
Reply:Put them on him for a short while and take loads of photos to show her that he has been wearing them. Then perhaps put them on him the next time you have a very brief visit.


Once you have shown her that he has worn them, make up an excuse as to why he cant wear them anymore. They are too small, too tight, he has sore toes, etc.


Mother-in-laws, who needs them eh! :)
Reply:Just say babies arnt supposed to wear shoes til they are walking as wearing shoes can cause probs in their feet growin and can squash feet and toe bones...the only shoes they really should wear is the soft pram shoes...tell them ur grateful but u dont want to cause probs for ur child
Reply:Well baby doesnt really walk so it wont be a problem ...They dont make sures to break infants feet lol...You can either just not put them on the baby or put them on to impress her one day and lock them away after lol
Reply:Accept them graciously, send her a nice thankyou note from baby, with a pick of him/her wearing them. Then put them in the closet and forget about them.
Reply:How does she deal with an unwanted gift take that road or tell to get a bigger size for later because you have so many others for your bub
Reply:Have your baby wear them once, then say Oh no theyre too small such a shame, never mind. Then never speak of them again, and sell them on E-bay!!!!
Reply:My mother-in-law is constantly buying my kids ugly clothes as well. To make her happy, I just dress the kids up in these things once so she can see, then I throw them out :)
Reply:just put them on when she comes to visit, you dont have to do this everytime but at least once would be nice.
Reply:wear them atleast one or two times...then take some photoes to show her later



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